Why validation isn’t as good as you think it is?
Validation is something that most of us have sought at some point in our lives, especially as children wanting to be acknowledged and recognised for doing something well.
How often do we actually carry that throughout our lives, whether in the workplace wanting to be told that we have done a great job or desiring validation from our partners within our relationships?
Quite often when we don’t receive the validation or the approval or recognition that we have been seeking, we can become frustrated or angry and feelings of resentment can begin to show up, creating disharmony for ourselves and in our lives.
Are you listening to the whispers of possibility?
We are so used to listening to the things that are really loud and solid in our worlds, the things we think we are supposed to do, should do, in the right order and in the correct way. As a result we can totally dismiss the whispers of possibilities that are all around us, just waiting to be heard and contribute to us.
What are the whispers of possibility?
The whispers of possibility are where we follow our knowing, our gut instincts, our intuition, that go way beyond the limitations and logic of our minds.
Have you ever had the point of view that you have to do everything? Have you ever realised how much in your business and in your life, that you have to get it all done and that you have to be there to create and do everything for everyone all on your own?
We are so used to thinking that we are alone in this world, even when we are surrounded by people, friends, amazing family and yet still have the sense that we are alone in whatever we are creating in our life and that we have to be the source for everything and everyone.
What if that isn’t really true?
“They won’t let me…”
“I don’t have the time…”
“I have so many other things to do right now…”
“I don’t have the money yet…”
“I’m not at my ideal weight…”
“I’m not quite confident enough…”
“I’ll just watch one more episode of Game of Thrones first…”
Does this sound like something you’ve ever done or thought to yourself?..
Most of our lives we are taught that being the same as everyone else is what makes us good, well behaved and a part of society. We are encouraged to mimic the people around us, and in particular our parents and families. Children are often being told how much they look just like their mother, or behave just like their father, or have similar talents as their siblings.
Were you ever told that you had to have a purpose in life? That there was a reason we’re all here and you just have to find what your purpose is? Only it had better be a good, perfect and correct purpose?!
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